Is it wrong to have an affair?
This is a relevant question, for some marriage counselors are advising their married clients to have an affair to help ease their tensions and frustrations. The subject is pertinent because we live in a time of moral permissiveness. Both married and unmarried people are wanting greater moral freedom. We are being told that morals are relative and that there are no absolute standards of right and wrong. It is becoming more and more socially acceptable to have an illicit affair. Furthermore, there is more than one kind of affair. There is the affair carried on by the unmarried, and then there is the extra-marital affair. Again, there is an affair between two people of the same sex. This whole matter of having an affair belongs to the general subject of morals, and since I am a preacher of the gospel, I shall approach the subject from the viewpoint of Christian morality. The standard of morals for Christians is the New Testament. The word of God, as revealed in the New Testament, is God's final authority in our day to determine what is right and wrong and what is good and bad.
We make all manner of excuses for extra-marital affairs, but they can never be justified. Galatians 5:19-21 declares that people who commit the sin of adultery shall not inherit the kingdom of God. This means that they cannot go to heaven.
You become disappointed with your companion. When this happens our lives are filled with loneliness, but adultery is not the answer. It will bring heartaches to you because it is a violation of heaven's will. It will betray every holy impulse of your soul.
Bible says, "Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled, but fornicators and adulterers God will judge"(Hebrews 13:4). Adultery correctly defined is sexual relations with a person other than one's own husband or wife.